Re: to share a view of mine on LOVE

Its a topic which is related to Ivan and Edda's recent post. So the topics bout falling in love and when that happens guys become jerks and gals silly. Ok for starters ive not been into many relationships infact you can use the fingers on a hand to make up the total sum of girls/ladies/women ive ever dated. Then again the amount is not what really matters! its the quality of the relationship and how that wonderful journey (well it might not be wonderful for everyone but iam sure all of them had their good and bad times right?) makes one learn more about himself/herself. Then improve gear up and strive to make whatever relationship you are in better.

Well i dont think love makes guys mutate into jerks! some maybe but not all. Allow me to sight an example, ive got a Someone whom is the same age as iam, when he was in his more youthful days he was a REAL JERK, disrespects his family members, playing pranks all the time, clubs drinking smoking, changing girlfriends like as if hees shopping for a new T etc. Then this girl came along she is 21, sweet smile, beautiful and ladylike BUT she has got a kid from her previous marriage. In spite of that which many would consider a BIG NO NO he takes her and her child into his life, slowly but surely he is changing for the better - stops clubbing and drinking cuts down on smoking, trying to give them a future thats worth living for.

You can say that she is SILLY! OMG this is a guy that you hardly know prob only a year or so, he drinks smokes plays round a lill too much and shees gonna allow herself to be hooked up? having to look after a kid is already hard enough for a 21yrs old alright! and shees already been badly hurt from a failed marriage. well look @ it this way, she sees a diamond thats just not polished - he accepted her past and is willing to work on their future, should she not give him a fair chance @ love? one should never be judged from his/her past!

So they say: LOVE IS BLIND! So what if he used to be a drug addict or she someone thats fools around in her younger days? thats the past aye? if you really really REALLY love someone you should never detest their past. Its from there one learns grown and transforms into something better. Iam sure everyone hurts in a failed relationship so Hear them out, give them quality advice, love them for whom they are and work on improving from there. Note and never stop learning to love cause once you are back in it, alls gonna be lovey dovey for a few mths and soon the waves or arguments and disagreements are gonna come crashing down on your sweet little sandcastle. Are you ready for another "cycle of falling in love" and if you are already in it are you strong matured and forgiving do you have enough patience, compassion and humility to last through this relationship till the end of your days? or is this just gonna be another phase in life till Mr/Mrs right comes along.

Anyways the couple i was talking bout a lill earlier are now happily in love. Iam not surprised if they tie the knot in a year or 2 but iam very sure they have learned to accept each other for whom they are and what they have been through. I am glad for them.

Ill post a lill something, vows which i kinda live by when i get home later. To end it off all guys go through that "jerk" phase and all girls have had their silly moments in love. But they can choose to learn from it =)

Somehow this works for me. Try it =)